The Resilience Advantage
In the grim backdrop of COVID-19 since December 2019, controlling the spread of the viral pandemic and lockdowns completely overhauled our habits and how we worked. No one is spared in the sprawling economic effect. Margie, who is the author of 5 best selling books, an advocate for gender equality, women in leadership and women's empowerment, was an invited speaker in our workforce and shared key principles on how to turn around a bad situation into one that you can glean from.
When we are feeling the impact of all that is going on, Be radically disciple in managing ourselves. Our circumstances don't have the power to determine how we are going to show up to the world. We emote before we reason, we cannot control our circumstances and our immediate feelings. We can regulate our emotions.
Extracted from Margie web podcast here :
1) Double down on what strengthens you.
Stand guard against things that fuels anxiety and stress.
Prioritise mentally what is most important to get done. What strengthens you. Feeds my soul.
Guard our time.
Be careful not to let our time to be wasted sucked in.
2) Stand guard on your energy. Positive energy in and positive energy out!
"We are 100% responsible for the energy you put out and the energy we let in" - Oprah
Be careful of where you are putting your energy, It expands.
Setup firm boundaries for yourself
When we are feeling the impact of all that is going on, Be radically disciple in managing ourselves. Our circumstances don't have the power to determine how we are going to show up to the world. We emote before we reason, we cannot control our circumstances and our immediate feelings. We can regulate our emotions.
Extracted from Margie web podcast here :
1) Double down on what strengthens you.
Stand guard against things that fuels anxiety and stress.
Prioritise mentally what is most important to get done. What strengthens you. Feeds my soul.
Guard our time.
Be careful not to let our time to be wasted sucked in.
2) Stand guard on your energy. Positive energy in and positive energy out!
"We are 100% responsible for the energy you put out and the energy we let in" - Oprah
Be careful of where you are putting your energy, It expands.
Setup firm boundaries for yourself
Beware of :
"Catastrophizing"
"Fearcasting"
"What ifs"
3) Anchor yourself on your core values.
We know who we are, I can control who I am, and who I am being. What others can count on me for.
Who do we want to be? Someone who is lifts other people up. Someone who makes others feel valued and taken care of.
The idea of self-certainly, and you can be that person for yourself!
Other Notes
Your mind is like a garden:
Whatever you plant will grow.
Your thoughts are seeds you’re planting:
They produce, each after its kind.
And you, just like a gardener,
Can choose which seeds you’ll plant.
And by the choice of seeds you sow,
You choose the harvest you will reap.
So don’t plant seeds of lack or fear,
Disease, discord, or doubt.
Plant, instead, the seeds you want;
Then things you want will sprout.
This gift of choice is given to all,
And not to just a few.
The harvest, friend, is in your hands:
The crop depends on you.
Two persons were waiting for a bus;
One was calm and the other was hurried.
Surely there is no evil bus drivers who caused the person to be late?
Take care of your mind then,
It is like a garden;
Whatever you plant will grow;
Your thoughts are seeds you plant;
They produce after its kind.
References :
Warrell, M., 2021. Margie Warrell | Live Brave Podcast. [online] Margie Warrell. Available at: <https://margiewarrell.com/live-brave-podcast/> [Accessed 23 May 2020].
"Catastrophizing"
"Fearcasting"
"What ifs"
3) Anchor yourself on your core values.
We know who we are, I can control who I am, and who I am being. What others can count on me for.
Who do we want to be? Someone who is lifts other people up. Someone who makes others feel valued and taken care of.
The idea of self-certainly, and you can be that person for yourself!
Ellen Lange, a professor of positive psychology and mindfulness at Harvard University;
"There is always a way to turn things into a win."
Other Notes
- We often underestimate our ability to deal with difficult, challenging situations; and overestimate our abilities to get daily things done (the Dunning-Kruger Effect). We have a greater capacity for life to handle risk. Trust more in our innate capacity to deal with life. Choose the path of faith over fear.
- Remember that emotions are contagious. Don't spread your stress!
- Be agile and flexible.
- Denial, resistance, fighting against reality is an energy waster. Letting go of attachment faster allows energy to flow in another direction.
- We only need to deal with one moment at the time.
How do I need to show up today?
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| Source : Ensia |
"Many, many resilient people learn to carefully accept what they can’t change about a situation and then ask themselves what they can actually change. Conversely, banging your head against the wall and fretting endlessly about not being able to change things has the opposite effect, lessening your ability to cope." Source : NY Times
I stumbled on this article 'The 6 Domains of Resilience' and found the study enlightening - What groups of behaviours, skills and beliefs contribute to resilience? What can we actually measure resilience against? We are complex beings, and it makes sense that there are a great many factors that contributes to resilience. This article has grouped related components into six distinct domains that makes a person resilient.
Vision.
Vision is about your sense of purpose, goals, and personal vision for yourself. Clarity is about what is important in order to stay focused and achieve your goals.
Congruence is agreement or harmony; compatibility of all your actions which are working together across the larger vision of yourself. Mahatma Gandhi once said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Collaboration.
Collaboration is understanding the context of your interaction with people. The ability to build good relations means knowing what behaviour is best in different contexts so you can keep things constructive and build positive relationships.
Composure.
Composure is about regulating emotions. Being able to overcome that instinctive emotional response and maintain your composure often means being able to recognise hidden opportunities and solve problems in novel ways.
Being conscientious of what you are thinking about, is always a key indicator for me as it affects my feelings, bias, reactions, response and composure.
Someone I barely know once gave me a small note with a beautifully printed poem that was a variation from the one written by Charles David Heineke. It wrote somewhat like this :
Whatever you plant will grow.
Your thoughts are seeds you’re planting:
They produce, each after its kind.
And you, just like a gardener,
Can choose which seeds you’ll plant.
And by the choice of seeds you sow,
You choose the harvest you will reap.
So don’t plant seeds of lack or fear,
Disease, discord, or doubt.
Plant, instead, the seeds you want;
Then things you want will sprout.
This gift of choice is given to all,
And not to just a few.
The harvest, friend, is in your hands:
The crop depends on you.
Two persons were waiting for a bus;
One was calm and the other was hurried.
Surely there is no evil bus drivers who caused the person to be late?
Take care of your mind then,
It is like a garden;
Whatever you plant will grow;
Your thoughts are seeds you plant;
They produce after its kind.
Warrell, M., 2021. Margie Warrell | Live Brave Podcast. [online] Margie Warrell. Available at: <https://margiewarrell.com/live-brave-podcast/> [Accessed 23 May 2020].
Merriam-webster.com. 2021. Definition of RESILIENCE. [online] Available at: <https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/resilience> [Accessed 1 April 2021].
Ensia. 2021. The term “resilience” is everywhere — but what does it really mean?. [online] Available at: <https://ensia.com/articles/what-is-resilience/> [Accessed 1 April 2021].
Nytimes.com. 2021. What Makes Some People More Resilient Than Others. [online] Available at: <https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/18/health/resilience-relationships-trauma.html> [Accessed 1 April 2021].
Home.hellodriven.com. 2021. The 6 Domains of Resilience. [online] Available at: <https://home.hellodriven.com/6-domains-of-resilience.html> [Accessed 1 April 2021].
Cdheineke.tripod.com. 2021. TheDoorway's Inspirational Poems and Essays--Garden of Your Mind. [online] Available at: <https://cdheineke.tripod.com/garden.html> [Accessed 1 April 2021].
First published on 23 May 2020, reviewed on 1st April 2021.
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